Marriage would be so easy if life didn’t get in the way. You’re tired, talked out, touched out, and at the end of the day, you just want to veg out on the couch alone and watch some TV before falling asleep and repeating it all tomorrow. Your husband is more like a roommate, a friend, or perhaps even a friend with benefits. But internally, you know something is missing.

If you suspect that you’ve hit one of those rough patches in your marriage, consider this one habit that changed my marriage for the better.