I had my first “boyfriend” in sixth grade, just in time for Valentine’s Day. Shocker: We broke up by early March. Like many teens, I moved from one guy to the next, hoping one would heal my broken heart. These relationships had far-reaching consequences and caused incredible damage to my self-image and self-esteem. Looking back, the disadvantages of teenage dating are enough that I don’t plan to allow my kids to date in high school.

I might sound a bit old-fashioned, but I’d like to think that my reasons for not wanting my children to date in high school make sense. Teen culture might change, but teen hearts won’t. Here are three reasons why my children (probably) won’t date in high school.