In the aftermath of the Supreme Court’s decision on gay marriage, I have been shocked and honestly very disappointed to see many people’s true colors emerge. And I’m not talking about people’s rainbow-colored Facebook profile pictures. I’m talking about some of the harshest, cruelest comments that I’ve ever read on Facebook in my life. And they’re all directed at proponents of traditional marriage.
Within hours of the Supreme Court’s decision, my Facebook newsfeed was bombarded by celebratory Facebook posts, some by professed gay men and lesbians, but most from heterosexual men and women who viewed the whole endeavor as an equal rights issue. These I expected; what I didn’t expect was that these sorts of comments should only comprise half of all comments dealing with gay marriage. The other half was entirely unexpected.
The gist of the comments was this: now that gay marriage has been legalized in the US, all those intolerant, bigoted, hateful, and stupid traditional marriage proponents could go to hell. The right side had finally won out, and the losers just needed to shut their mouths and go home. Or as one particularly extreme comment read, they could just die. Anyone who had the guts to argue with these victorious gay rights activists was compared to those who fought against the Civil Rights Movement, or at their very best (or worst, depending on how we’re looking at it), to the Nazis.
Just a word on this comparison. As an established proponent of traditional marriage and a descendant of Hungarians who managed to survive World War II central Europe, I am appalled at anyone who has the audacity to compare people like myself to the Nazis. Anyone who would dare make a comparison like that should take a trip out to Auschwitz or Bergen-Belsen before even considering such a statement. The Nazis were responsible for the mass extermination of millions of people. They were gassed, tortured to death, and worked until their bodies succumbed to exhaustion and starvation. Their bodies were dumped in mass graves or else they were cremated to destroy remnants of these “animals” more efficiently. Honestly, you’re fighting for the “right” to get married (and you can read what I think of that here). These people were fighting just to live. They were being massacred by the thousands, dozens dying by the day. You just couldn’t get married to your same-sex partner. I’m sorry, but regardless of your particular stance on the subject, I just don’t see how your plight can possibly compare to theirs. It’s shameful to even suggest that you’re suffering in the same way that they did. Out of respect for those who have survived until today (and especially for those who must have the misfortune of reading your comments) and out of respect for those who died during the Holocaust, I beg you to please stop comparing us to the Nazis. That’s the equivalent to comparing yourselves to those who suffered during the Holocaust, and that’s just unacceptable.
I hope and pray that these comments have been made ignorantly, or at least as a form of serious hyperbole (though I would say that such exaggeration is wrong in and of itself). Unfortunately, more often than not, this does not seem to be the case. We really are being compared to the Nazis. That’s probably why we’ve been told that we should rot in hell or die. You normally wouldn’t wish such an awful future on your fellow human being. But that hasn’t stopped at least some people from making such a devastating condemnation.
But even the more benign comments are overtly intolerant and hateful. Even if we’re not being compared to Nazis, we’re being called “idiots,” “imbeciles,” “retards,” and a whole host of other cruel names. And those are just the names I took from my Facebook newsfeed. Some of these people I once called my friends. But I highly doubt they want to be my friends anymore. You don’t call your friends retards after all.
For the most part, I have avoided arguments about the whole question of homosexuality and gay marriage. I’ve posted on it a handful of times, but it’s rare for me to engage in actual debate. Why? Honestly, because it’s not much of a debate. It’s really difficult to argue with someone who wants to spend all their energy calling you hateful, intolerant, and stupid. I’ve tried it a few times, but for the most part I’ve learned my lesson. I’ll continue to write on the topic, but I’ve reached the conclusion that there’s no point arguing with the logic of liberals. It doesn’t make much sense when arguments generally devolve quickly and in this fashion:
ARGUMENT: “The bakery owners were not discriminating against them for their sexual orientation. They don’t believe in gay marriage, so they weren’t going to bake a cake for an occasion that they didn’t think was possible. If the same couple had come in asking for a birthday cake, the owners would have had no problem baking one. It wasn’t about the orientation; it was about that fact that the owners don’t believe marriage is possible between two people of the same sex. It’s part of their moral code, and if we’re really going to have religious freedom in this country, we need to respect that.”
RESPONSE: “The bakery owners are intolerant bigots. Of course they’re discriminating against them for their orientation. Who could possibly think that people shouldn’t get married? Of course they’re homophobes, and if they’re going to adhere to their idiotic beliefs, they don’t deserve religious freedom.”
ARGUMENT: “But there are gay people who believe that gay marriage is wrong. Are they homophobes? You can’t assume that all gay people want gay marriage.”
RESPONSE: “Of course you can. Gay people can’t be homophobes, and they couldn’t be against gay marriage. You’re probably just making them up to prove your point.”
ARGUMENT: “No, they really do exist, and the biggest reason you probably don’t know any is because for the most part, they’ve been ostracized from the rest of the gay community. They’ve written blogs and books, and they even speak out about the intolerance that they’ve faced.”
RESPONSE: “They’re probably just religious, and it’s all been forced on them. I’m sure deep down, they want to get married to another gay person. Otherwise they’ve just been brainwashed to believe all that idiotic faith crap. But really, if they want to follow the Bible so closely, they should start stoning adulterers and fornicators. That’s what the Bible says you should do.”
ARGUMENT: “Well, that’s in the Old Testament, which was fulfilled through Jesus Christ. We no longer have to abide by the 613 Jewish laws because Christ has taken all sins into Himself and died for us. Christ gave us a New Law.”
RESPONSE: “Yeah, and that law says that we shouldn’t judge and that we should love one another. That means letting gay people be gay and allowing them to get married.”
ARGUMENT: “But it doesn’t say that we should tolerate their sinfulness. Loving a person means helping them to become better. It means helping them to overcome their sinful tendencies.”
RESPONSE: “Don’t you dare call homosexuality sinful. Christianity is a religion of the most idiotic and intolerant bigots. We’d be better off without them.” Or, as someone else so eloquently put it, “They should all just burn.”
You probably think I’m making this up, but I’m not. I wish I was. I’ve read these arguments on my own Facebook feed, as well as in blogs and in the comment sections of websites. And that’s why I might just take your advice and shut up with my hateful, intolerant, and stupid beliefs. I can only take so much name calling. You can only be called an idiot so many times before it begins to take a mental toll on you. And how can you possibly argue with a person who wants to compare you to the Nazis? I’m sorry, but it’s just not worth it. I think I’ll just continue writing my blog posts, where I can at least monitor my comments section, and leave the debating to those with stronger stomachs and more patience. You certainly need it when you’re dealing with the logic of liberals.
Mary Help of Christians, pray for us!